There are plenty of reasons why dating someone with a promiscuous sexual past is a bad idea. But choosing your partner purely based on who she slept with in the past is a silly idea as well. A girl with a promiscuous sexual past can be a viable partner, if it falls under the circumstances outlined below:
1: She regrets it
If she truly regrets it, then it’s very unlikely that she will go back to that life, and more likely that she now has values towards intimacy that are more closely lined up with yours. This will make it more likely that your relationship will succeed.
2: She’s emotionally healthy
If she is confident, feels good about herself, has a good relationship to her friends and family, is good at expressing her feelings without judging herself, is grateful to be alive, accepts herself as she is, and has a positive attitude towards life, then she likely has no emotional issues and your relationship will be a healthy one.
3: She has no children (or you are okay with her having children)
Children may be great, but let’s face it, dating a woman with children from a previous relationship means dating someone with baggage. The kid might even have traits from that guy that in the past had unprotected sex with your partner. You may be okay with her having children, and if you are that’s fine. But if you’re uncomfortable with it, realize that the kid is here to stay, the kid will always be more important to her than you are, and if you get more serious, you will be more involved in the kid’s life as well. And if you break up, you’re going to break up with the kid too.
4: She is physically healthy
Having a promiscuous sexual past means that you are far more likely to have sexually transmitted diseases, even if you don’t have any symptoms or the tests came up negative. But if she is verifiably clean, and also generally a health conscious person, then you are more likely to be able to physically have children with her, and enjoy a long life together (with a woman that will look hotter for longer).
5: She has no contact with any ex lovers
Ex lovers who are still in the picture make moving on very difficult. This is another reason why dating a woman with children is difficult: The child’s biological father will usually still be around, and remain so forever. You will therefore be reminded of the person that used to have sex with your wife on a regular basis.
6: Her past isn’t totally excessive
Look: every guy wants the virgin model who fucks like a pornstar, likes video games, can cook and has a degree in computer science and marine biology. But let’s be realistic here: every girl you meet will have some type of past, so you have to figure out what kind of past is still acceptable to you. Most women I know who have great long-term relationships have had less than 10 sexual partners, even when in their 30s, so for me, that’s the acceptable limit. If you meet a girl that is below that range and you have problems with her past, consider that you may be overreacting.
7: Bonus: she slutted around in another city
This is optional, but if she slept around in another city, that means that she has left her past behind geographically and it will be far easier to build a new life together.
What do you think?
Are there any other circumstances under which her sexual past doesn’t matter? Do you disagree with me? Let me know in the comments.
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Here’s another reason: You love her, so the past isn’t important at all anymore.